now that the drama is over i love looking at comments on The Post that r like “from evil predatory lesbians like u that treat bi girls as sex toys” bc like (1) u mean like what every man does w every woman ever (2) joke’s on u i’ve literally been on 1 date in my life, it was ~3 years ago (back when i ID’d as hetero) and it was with a dude who i then never spoke to again
how exactly can you know every man is bad if you’ve only been on one date??? sorry just like, the salt here. be there for your fellow lg/B/tqa+ people, otherwise you’re just like the people who stereotype and harass our culture.
Goddamn can I ever be bitter on my vent blog again w/o people crawling up my ass abt it
you’re missing the point I’m trying to make honey, i can read the tags below the post just like anyone else. anyways, good vibes your way, I hope your perception on the world grows and you learn to love yourself ❤
There is a long silence as you wait by the window this afternoon. The sunlight makes all the dust particles visible, moving to and fro. Maybe you should buy new air filters.
Ok so I rly fucking need to clean my house. Do any other People With Depression™ have any tips or ways you motivate urself to clean? Because this feels like the hardest goddamn thing in the world even tho I know it’s not and I’m just continually frustrated with myself and have been for the past two weeks.
HOO BOY DO I HAVE DEPRESSION/EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION CLEANING TIPS
in no particular order (because I have depression and executive dysfunction):
1. If something sensory about cleaning bothers you, eliminate that before you start. For example, I wear gloves to do the dishes. If the sound of the vacuum bothers you, wear headphones and turn up the music. etc.
2. If you can, make a list of everything that needs to be done. Then acknowledge that you probably can’t do it all, and circle all the things that absolutely, no matter what, have to be done. Pick one (ONE! ONLY ONE! START WITH ONE!) of those things and break it down into smaller steps. Then even smaller steps. Seriously, if step one is “stand up” and step two is “walk to closet” and step 3 is “get mop”, that’s fine. It can be that small.
3. Take a break. “But I literally only started five minutes ago!” Don’t care. If you want a break, take a break. “At this point I’ve spent more time on breaks than I’ve spent on cleaning.” Ok, but you’ve spent more than zero time on cleaning, so you’ve accomplished more than you had at the beginning. “If I take a break it won’t get done!” If you burn out it won’t get done either. Take a break.
4. If nothing is working, try what I call bin cleaning/box cleaning. Take a big trash bag and a box. Pick up the first object you see. Step 1: Is it trash? Put it in the trash bag. Step 2: Will you use it in the next 2 days? No? Put it in the box. It’s a problem for Future You. If you’ll use it in the next 2 days, take time to put it away. Rinse and repeat.
5. Did you get distracted and forget what you were doing? Don’t worry about it. Just clean a thing. It doesn’t matter if it’s the thing you were cleaning before. You have to clean lots of things, so just pick a thing and clean it. Eventually you’ll get around to the thing you forgot.
6. If you have to do a thing you really hate, do a thing you like afterwards. I hate doing dishes, but folding laundry soothes me, so that’s a nice one to do afterwards. YMMV. If there are no cleaning things you like that you can do afterwards, see number 3.
7. Make it fun. Play loud music and dance while you’re cleaning. Wear something that makes you feel cute, or if you prefer, something comfy. Light your favorite candle. Whatever.
8. If it’s nice out, open a window. Seriously, it helps.
I genuinely love all those unsubstantiated but also very earnest posts about Paris Hilton spotted at like radio conventions and politely + calmly interacting with the common folk and just generally being a surprisingly chill, benevolent force? Paris Hilton is my favorite cryptid
now that the drama is over i love looking at comments on The Post that r like “from evil predatory lesbians like u that treat bi girls as sex toys” bc like (1) u mean like what every man does w every woman ever (2) joke’s on u i’ve literally been on 1 date in my life, it was ~3 years ago (back when i ID’d as hetero) and it was with a dude who i then never spoke to again
how exactly can you know every man is bad if you’ve only been on one date??? sorry just like, the salt here. be there for your fellow lg/B/tqa+ people, otherwise you’re just like the people who stereotype and harass our culture.
Mainly from lesbians who like to call us things like “dick worshipers”, “basically straight”, “bihets”, “cheaters”, “untrustworthy”, “breeders” and “traitors”.
from men asking if we’re into threesomes, from men who think we can’t say no sex bc we’re promiscuous, from the biphobia that we’ll inevitably face w/n our own relationships
